"..For behold, it's because they're in love with themselves that they want you to look at them all the time and keep drawing your attention--in love with themselves and not with you, for if they really loved you, they would not disturb your natural tranquillity of mind---Therefore the most beneficial teaching in this world is the teaching by silence and example of example of silence and repose-----But some must bake the bread, and some eat it, and the bakers are agitated--- Bake therefore yr own bread, calm . . . If you dote one the love of another human being, every time you disturb (her him) to draw your attention to your loving, you do her a disservice as of hating. Beware of lechery and then beware of the conspiring earnestness. . Be like a junk a junk drunk punk, hang motionless in the wait for the time to wheel around . . . This is why a man doesnt need a woman, or a cigarette, or a house. He needs just food for sustenance and a decision to exercise his frill will in thought, and action, and thought is the shadow of action, which is a shadow also."

Some of the Dharma, Jack Kerouac